I think this site includes many of the hidden costs. Clicking the "Defense" dropdown, you can see many of the categories of spending you mentioned (e.g. 90B on veterans, 18B on "Atomic energy defense activities").

http://usgovernmentspending.com/year2009_US.html

It's a nice site for budget issues, among other things it doesn't go the lazy route and look at federal spending only.

(Interesting fact the site reveals: including state/local budgets, education is the #2 expense in the US. The military is #4.)