I don't understand it either. I track requests and AI crawlers are there but not as abusive as people claim. Most annoying requests are from hackers who are trying to find my ".git" directory. But I highly doubt these guys will respect any rules anyway.
Vastly varies on what type of website you have, how many pages you have, and how often they are updated. We routinely see 1000's of requests per minute coming from AI bots and the scraping lasts for hours. Enough to make up 20-30% of overall requests to the server.