Does buying a home and letting people live in it automatically created shared dinners or coffee chats though? I can't say I've ever done that with my landlord. And yeah, my landlord doesn't usually live with me, but I've also had a fair share of roommate arrangements where we were friendly but not exactly friends. Certainly not eating meals together.

In the broader picture, where most adults are lonely and can't make friends, being negative and focusing on the friendships lost thru community housing seems a bit myopic. If the multitudes of relationships gained aren't worth the ones that are burnt - and I am not minimalizing those that are being burnt - it truely sucks to lose friends - but if, over the years, you haven't managed to gain more friends than you have lost, then something is wrong.

I can't say what, because I don't know you and your circumstances, nor your morals, or lack thereof, but it's Saturday night where I am, and I'm going to go enjoy it with friends that I've been avoiding, in favor of doom scrolling.