We'd all like to think that. Unfortunately, there's a pretty widespread tendency to tell people who bring -ism issues to attention that they're Doing It Wrong, You Should Do It This Way That Wouldn't Upset Me Instead.
So while they might be reacting with their opinion of a better solution, there's a lot of form of using that exact form of argument to attempt to silence.
Also, she was the one in the situation; perhaps she's got good reasons to do it this way, rather than whatever way is being suggested? And isn't it kinda arrogant to think you (the group you, not pyre) know better?
Yes, but it's not just about the banal critique, it's about the subtle (or not so subtle) invalidation of the offense, the cephalic burial in sand over the problem, discussing the particulars of a single instance of a problem that's seemingly all over the place.
So while they might be reacting with their opinion of a better solution, there's a lot of form of using that exact form of argument to attempt to silence.
Also, she was the one in the situation; perhaps she's got good reasons to do it this way, rather than whatever way is being suggested? And isn't it kinda arrogant to think you (the group you, not pyre) know better?