> This style of concern trolling drives me up the fraking wall,
It shouldn't because it isn't.
> given what we know about abuse statistics.
If marriages are safer for female spouses, I suggest it's because marriages have to compete with other relationships.
In my parents day (silent gen), marriage had little competition and were commonly a safe environment for abusers.
I personally witnessed mom in traction & my brothers broken. Most of her relatives/friends were mistreated by their husbands (possibly all but not everyone confided). Similar stores could be said by the children of that generation. And, my observations were far from unique. Family abuse was everywhere (victims confide in victims).
For my cousins' generation, many things are improved. eg:Their understanding of abuse. eg:The meaningful expectation for men to not mistreat their loved ones. eg:The expectation for men to support all obligations in a household (not just the ones they want).
Meanwhile, if we are more vocal about More Marriages than we are about better marriages, I suggest we have lost our way.
It shouldn't because it isn't.
> given what we know about abuse statistics.
If marriages are safer for female spouses, I suggest it's because marriages have to compete with other relationships.
In my parents day (silent gen), marriage had little competition and were commonly a safe environment for abusers.
I personally witnessed mom in traction & my brothers broken. Most of her relatives/friends were mistreated by their husbands (possibly all but not everyone confided). Similar stores could be said by the children of that generation. And, my observations were far from unique. Family abuse was everywhere (victims confide in victims).
For my cousins' generation, many things are improved. eg:Their understanding of abuse. eg:The meaningful expectation for men to not mistreat their loved ones. eg:The expectation for men to support all obligations in a household (not just the ones they want).
Meanwhile, if we are more vocal about More Marriages than we are about better marriages, I suggest we have lost our way.