There is a major difference—I am not trying to justify hypocrisy. I am not going around creating public policy and commanding and preaching to others not to eat steak while eating it myself. If anything, I encourage people to eat steak.
If that still makes me an asshole…so be it. “Asshole” is always arbitrary, hypocrisy is always evident.
These actions are harmful regardless of whether you're being a hypocrite about them or not.
In fact, from an utilitarian point of view, being a hypocrite may actually be less harmful, since you may still influence others to do better. I'm not exactly an utilitarian myself, but that's one possible way to judge.
Sure, as is one possible way for me to judge that judgement is that folks will excuse and explain away all sorts of bad behaviors of the people that they identify as allies to a specific cause they support. Doesn’t make them right, it just makes them assholes…at least from my POV.
If that still makes me an asshole…so be it. “Asshole” is always arbitrary, hypocrisy is always evident.