And this is how its supposed to be. Small communities working, or not working together.

I've been using Mastodon for years, part of a community of no more than 10,000 people (we have a cap for reasons I'm not going to get into) and it's fine.

I also got my own instance, like I have my own email.

Mastodon isn't Twitter or Facebook, it's not designed to be that way.