You'd be wrong to assume people are reasonable about this. I work at a place that is a bit progressive, but much less so than SV bigcos...also this is in Texas. I interviewed a person whose resume had a clearly female name, appeared more feminine than many tomboy type women I know, and otherwise gave no signals to us about gender identity(they went by a nickname which was gender neutral, which in hindsight is a signal, but subtle, not at all clear). Turns out they considered themselves nonbinary. During the round table afterwards I got called out for writing "she" in my summary of their interview and had to listen to someone grandstand for a couple of minutes about respecting nonbinary persons' pronouns in front of about a dozen senior people in the company. The interview panel leader advised us all to always say "the candidate" and never use pronouns in the future. Funny thing is "the candidate" seemed like a chill person that probably wouldn't have taken offense anyway.