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I agree with you and feel that younger employees lose sight of this more easily as their entire world revolves around their employment and those they work with.

Lack of a 'life' outside of work makes one myopic to the cold nature of employment and changes the dynamic so losing a job is an enormous emotional hit.

Start a family, go to church, cultivate friendships outside of your work. Your life will be better off for it and it will help keep this employee/employer relationship in its proper focus.



>younger employees lose sight of this more easily as their entire world revolves around their employment and those they work with

Do you think employers deserve any responsibility for creating that perception among employees? Is this entirely the youth's fault?


When words of family start floating around or when social activities are provided/expected.


Years and years ago I worked at an organisation where I was expected to role play Dungeons and Dragons (polystyrene swords and all). When I refused it got tense.

The tipping point happened when I found a bug in the CTO's database code and it would run out of memory (not closing JDBC ResultSets). Then I started finding coins on the floor, I'd just pick them up and hand them in, I knew what was going on.

I didn't last long, glad I was ejected when I was.


Sure, when the employer provides 3 free squares a day, onsite massages, custom merch, team volleyball and a hiring process that emphasizes culture fit.


You don't even have to go that far TBH.

I've seen a pattern with some companies where people are afraid to leave, for lack of a better way of putting it, "It's hell but if I leave it will be even more hell for my friends I leave behind." It's often a form of 'trauma-bonding'.




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