I always felt like dating was just a job interview, and it completely put me off. It feels as exhausting as grinding for technical interviews. Your comment about choosing a partner being like choosing a CTO makes me wonder whether you're coming at it with a similar frame.
I met someone on Reddit last year and we got to know each other very intimately, because of the safety of the anonymity. We eventually met in person, and it's really great.
I later read "Click", which I highly recommend, and it completely explained why we connected so deeply.
I wish I had learned a long time ago to "go first" and take the risk of sharing my feelings with strangers, because that's how you build a deep connection with someone, quickly. After that, if you communicate well, you find them physically attractive enough, and you trust them to have hard conversations, that's it.
I met someone on Reddit last year and we got to know each other very intimately, because of the safety of the anonymity. We eventually met in person, and it's really great.
I later read "Click", which I highly recommend, and it completely explained why we connected so deeply.
I wish I had learned a long time ago to "go first" and take the risk of sharing my feelings with strangers, because that's how you build a deep connection with someone, quickly. After that, if you communicate well, you find them physically attractive enough, and you trust them to have hard conversations, that's it.