“I have fully forgiven him and I don’t have the same attitude that a lot of people have with his treatment of me,” Tarleton said. “I have moved on so well and in so many ways. I feel like, for me, it ends a big chapter in my life.”
More than what happened to her, what stands out to me is that she's moved on. That's strength. There are things that no one can take away.
You move on so it doesn't steal anymore of your future. It's the only thing you can do. Stewing about it just lets it take yet more of your life when the cost has already been too high.
In most cases, no, the people trying to bleed you emotionally with their pity party for you aren't going to do a damn thing to help improve your quality of life. They will only add to your suffering.
Shutting them down as efficiently as possible as just part of protecting yourself from yet more damage in a cold, cruel world full of assholes.
I wouldn't be so eager to highlight these statements.
Self-blame is very common in victims of domestic abuse, and when one suffers from it they're predisposed towards "forgiveness". It's really a compensation for feeling somehow responsible for their own abuse, which is very unfortunate.
I'm glad she seems to have found some closure in his death though.
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