The hacker culture itself is just a movement that embodies the principles one would naturally grow once one fully immerses oneself in an intellectual pursuit such as computer programming, model train hacking, math, lock-picking etc. Hence you don't 'have' to learn the culture from some damn book
Cultures are complex things; encompassing, amongst others, habits of thought, a common vocabulary, shared values, a sense of group history, and so on. The hacker culture is indeed quite heavily defined by its ways of thinking and shared values, which don't need to be learned from "some damn book". However, all the other aspects that together constitute a culture do need to be picked up from other members of said culture - and with a culture as distributed as hackerdom, that would indeed be best done by reading books.
Kevin Mitnick's "The Art of Deception" comes to mind. While it's more the black hat type, it's a good look at social engineering from the perspective of an expert. I'm always intrigued at how a lot of hackers start with an interest in magic tricks.
