Liking something doesn't mean it's not part of the problem (see google).
You don't like facebook messenger, you like having all your acquaintances in one place (same could be done with federated xmpp).
You don't have to share anything personal to be profiled with a stockpile of data (see metadata), actually you have to take active counter measures to limit that. But even though you are not forced at gunpoint you are manipulated into being part of the mess (be part of the walled garden or be separated from your acquaintances, be online or lose some of your social interactions).
You don't like facebook messenger, you like having all your acquaintances in one place (same could be done with federated xmpp).
You don't have to share anything personal to be profiled with a stockpile of data (see metadata), actually you have to take active counter measures to limit that. But even though you are not forced at gunpoint you are manipulated into being part of the mess (be part of the walled garden or be separated from your acquaintances, be online or lose some of your social interactions).